While the holiday period can be a time of joy and togetherness, it can also be a difficult time. Someone you know might be missing a loved one, working, feeling lonely, facing financial pressure, managing relationship challenges or experiencing heightened stress. Everyone experiences this time of the year differently.
If someone you care about is finding the holiday period difficult, there are simple but meaningful ways to offer support. In this article, our Mental Health First Aiders share their top tips for supporting someone during this time of year.
Avoid placing expectations
There is no right or wrong way to go about the holiday period. Encourage people to do what works for them socially, emotionally and financially.
‘As the holiday season can also highlight financial struggles, I like to focus on experiences rather than gifts in my family and friendship groups.’
Understand and respect diversity
Whether because of religion, culture or personal preference, we all experience the end of the year differently. Some people may have different traditions to you, or they may choose not to celebrate at all. Be respectful of these differences by taking an interest in their traditions and making them feel welcome.
‘When talking about the holiday season be mindful that it means different things to everyone, so be curious and ask questions without judgement.’
Extend an invitation to someone who might be alone
Maybe your neighbour lives alone, your colleague’s family are overseas, or a friend has lost a loved one recently. Invite them to join your traditions, or organise a catch up centred around something they enjoy doing.
‘Sometimes the holiday period can be challenging for people who have little to no family and are in an isolated situation. Invite them to join you for a meal or let them know that you are thinking of them.’
Recognise everyone’s social battery is different
Including someone in your plans is a great way to let them know you are thinking of them. But it is important not to place pressure on them if they are not up for it. If they say no or do not wish to attend – that’s okay. Your invitation still stands as a reminder that you care, and that they belong.
‘I love it when my friends invite me places, but also say ‘I know it can be a busy time so no stress if you can’t come’. It gives me permission to say no and have some me-time.’
Offer practical support
When someone is struggling, it can make it hard to carry out everyday tasks and meet commitments. Offering practical support (such as running errands, cooking or cleaning) can relieve pressure, and give them the space to look after themselves.
‘I like offering to do little things like cooking, cleaning or even going to the shops to do click and collect. These are little things that help ease the stress.’
Keep an eye out for changing behaviours
Are they more withdrawn or agitated? Are they talking negatively about themselves or behaving in ways that are out of character? It could be a sign that they are struggling.
‘I noticed my cousin wasn’t her usual self – she was quieter. After having a conversation with her, I realised there were some family tensions she was working through.’
Check in
If you notice a change in someone, or you know someone might be finding the holidays challenging, take the time to check in. It could be a phone call, a text or in person – whatever you think they will be comfortable with. Doing so could start a meaningful conversation and provide the support they need.
‘I make sure to check in more frequently during those busier times, as well as touching base with friends who may have tricky family situations to let them know they’re not alone.’
